Love: Does It Require Buying Something Expensive?
According to the TV today I don’t love my wife.
You might rightfully ask, when did my TV develop such a judgmental intellect?
It was in between the Top 10 sports plays and the review/replays of the Georgia Bulldogs heartbreaking loss to Alabama on ESPN. (unless of course you say ‘Roll Tide’ for no reason in particular anytime your mouth opens-nope you wouldn’t think it a heartbreaking loss would ya?)
How did I come out so low on the “love the wife” meter?
I’m going to ignore the “if you love her, you will buy her a diamond ring/necklace/earrings” sentiment. This and similar gift buying ads touting love as the reason for a new car , new clothes, new tech stuff are playing out over and over amen for the past week and through the Christmas season. “If you love her you will shop at Zales….” is one mantra that is making me reach for the Pepto-pink.
I’m pretty self-confident in my love of my wife. Even if I don’t always show it as often as I should. The idea that I could buy her love with a new diamond or a car would actually make her angry. (hmmm at least the diamond thing. Right now she may be moved by a new car, considering she is driving a hand me down Ford Ranger for which if someone said it drove like a truck would truly be a compliment. Since it actually drives like what I think driving a used Sherman tank would drive.)
Why do so many advertisers use “buy this if you truly love someone” in their ads when it is soooo hokey?
It must work. Kinda like the negative political campaign ads. We all say we don’t like them. Over and over though we show negative ads work. They move voters opinions, even when we all know we are being manipulated.
Without having to wait until Christmas, and spend a lotta hard-earned money (or even worse buy on credit) your loved one a diamond, then what can you do to say you love someone?
How to Say You Love Someone?
- Without being asked, get the Christmas decorations put up. And for bonus points, put them away in the same fashion, without being asked.
- Wash and vacuum their car.
- If you have any flowering bushes or pretty greenery in your yard, go cut them and put them in a holiday appropriate vase.
- Vacuum and or sweep the floors or rake the yard-whichever is most appropriate based on dust or leaf counts.
- Surprise her with dinner and a night at a nearby hotel. No planning-just tell her to pack enough for one night.
- Make dinner one night as a surprise, from scratch. Shop, prepare, cook, and of course clean up. Even if its just grilled steak and a baked potato. Baby sitter of course if appropriate…
- If you have kids, get up one weekend morning, tell her you will see her in 8 hours and take the kids somewhere. Tell her she has the day to herself.
- Take her to a movie, and just this once, let her pick out the one she wants to see and don’t say anything negative or show any negative body language or heavy sighs, before, during or after. (If you can’t do this, send her to the movies with her friends, while you wash the car or rake the yard.)
- Buy her a new book or download one to her e-reader and encourage her to take a few hours off to read it.
These are just a few from free to inexpensive ways to show love for your lover, without the commercialization of Christmas.
Find a few of your own if these suggestions don’t float your boat, but make a plan and execute. Don’t let the busy season get by without letting her know you care.
If you want a gender neutral version of this post, just substitute as appropriate for your guys pleasure. That’s the definition of true love. Putting your partner’s needs before yours.
What are your favorite ways to inexpensively but accurately express your love and appreciation for your partner? Do you only do these things just at holiday or birthday time, or do you think of them as year round ways to improve your relationship?
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